People are brought up to conform to society. If you don’t fit within
society’s norms, you are looked upon disapprovingly. However, most people
aren’t normal in the truest sense of the word. Everyone has quirks and
idiosyncrasies. It’s these differences that allow us to find solutions to
problems. It also keeps us from getting bored. Imagine if everyone were truly
the same. There would be nothing new to discover about one another.
There are some reasons to conform.
For instance, you need to follow the rules and laws of your country and
community. Otherwise, you will suffer consequences for not doing so. Also, you
want to treat others with respect so that they will hopefully return that
respect. However, if you try to act in
ways in which others believe you should, you aren’t going to live your life to
the fullest.
That’s why you should get out of
the habit of comparing yourself to others. When you do this, you are likely
setting unrealistic expectations and will lead you to be disappointed.
Comparing yourself to others will result in you resenting those people. They
have their reasons for being the way they are, and it has nothing to do with
you.
There are qualities you admire in
others. There is nothing wrong with trying to adopt some of those admirable
qualities for yourself. However, it shouldn’t get to the point where you are
trying to redefine who you are to be like those people you admire. You aren’t them, and you never will be.
You have but a short time on this
planet. If you spend most of that time trying to be like someone else, you are
in for a rough ride. If you stick to who you are and find others willing to
accept you for that, you are going to be more satisfied for most of that time
you live. Others will be happier with the real you as well. You won’t be a
pretender. People see right through that kind of behavior. Just think about
others who are not true to themselves. How long does it take you to see through
that disguise?
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